Monday, February 18, 2013

Oscar-nominated films have Kansas connections - KansasCity.com

How can we draw a line from a little kid in Sweden ? a co-star in ?The Impossible,? a movie set in Thailand ? all the way back to Kansas?

Well, you?ll have to pay attention. And keep in mind that most everyone?s first name starts with a J.

First, let?s go back to 1988-89, when a 17-year-old Swedish foreign exchange student, Jan (pronounced ?yawn?) Sundberg, was living with John Ploger?s family in Kinsley, Kan. Sundberg graduated high school in Kinsley (east of Dodge City), then attended Bethany College in Lindsborg before getting a degree from the University of Oregon.

Sundberg spent eight years in this country and eventually returned to Sweden. He married, had two daughters, divorced, remarried and had a son. These days he works at Sweden?s biggest bank.

Meanwhile, he kept in touch with the Plogers and has returned frequently. (?I love the Midwest hospitality, common sense and beautiful open spaces,? Jan says.) Last spring, John and his wife, Susan, visited Jan and his family in Stockholm.

Now back to that line we were drawing. After the Sundbergs heard about a movie casting call for children, Jan?s wife, Jeanette, took their little boy, Johan, then 4.

?Johan had by then been in a McDonald?s commercial and wasn?t shy in front of the camera,? Jan tells us. ?He is also quite a good listener,? which Jan attributes partly to parenting skills he picked up from the Plogers.

?The Impossible,? based on a true story from the tsunami that struck the Indian Ocean in late 2004, concerns a British family ? on vacation in a resort village in Thailand ? and their desperate efforts to reunite in the wake of the devastation.

The mother (Naomi Watts, a best actress Oscar nominee) and her oldest son encounter a crying boy named Daniel ? played by Johan ? and rescue him from some rubble, then deposit him up a tree for safety.

The blond, blue-eyed Johan was 5 during his six weeks of filming. He?s now 6.

Child stunt doubles were available, but for the scene in which Daniel has to be plucked from the tree, ?all the kids were scared to do it,? Ploger says. ?So he played that one himself.?

The Sundbergs got to know Naomi Watts and saw her again recently at the movie?s opening in Spain.

Johan now has his own bank account, ?a tremendous start on a college fund,? Ploger says. The boy is personable and laid-back, and his family wants to keep him that way. He just finished another TV commercial, but his parents aren?t sure they want him becoming a child star.

Dad Jan, by the way, made a cameo in ?The Impossible?: When young Daniel is reunited with his father at a makeshift hospital, Jan got to play him.

Jan?s old host dad reports that ?The Impossible? hasn?t made it to southwest Kansas yet. But when it does, you can?t blame the Plogers if they?re caught pointing at the screen and whispering excitedly.

Riding with Lincoln

Turns out that several guys from the Sunflower State appear on horseback in ?Lincoln,? but it?s the appropriately named Paul Steed who?s front and center ? well, right of center ? in a widely seen publicity still from the movie.

The photo depicts a somber presidential visit to a Civil War battlefield, with best-actor favorite Daniel Day-Lewis as Honest Abe. But Steed, who grew up in Gardner, is prominent, too.

Steed, 44, who now lives in southeast Kansas, around Cherryvale, has been a horse-riding extra in movies and TV productions since he was in college. That?s where he met friend David Carrico, who later started Western Trooper Productions, which not only makes period reproduction leather accoutrements ? saddles, saddlebags, etc. ? but can also provide a film production with professional horsemen.

?It?s not steady work. You can?t count on it,? says Steed, whose regular job is working a cattle ranch (and no, not on horseback). ?But it?s fun, and not too many people get to do it.?

For ?Lincoln,? which is up for 12 Oscars, Steed was part of a group of 20 or so horsemen from Kansas and Oklahoma. They filmed in Virginia for about four weeks in November-December 2011.

Lincoln?s tour of the battlefield late in the war ?was the major scene we did,? Steed says. Shooting it took several days. The men behind Abe were the president?s mounted guard.

?I think they were trying to show his agony over the war dragging on,? says Steed, who has seen the film just once.

Another scene has the guys and their steeds following Mr. and Mrs. Lincoln as they?re riding in a coach.

?A lot of times we end up being blurry,? Steed says, laughing, ?because they?re focused in on the main characters.?

Naturally, when he tells someone he?s been in movies ? half a dozen or so, plus some documentaries with Kansas journalist Bill Kurtis for the History Channel ? the standard response is, ???Oh, did you meet so-and-so (celebrity)?? Most of the time, we don?t spend a lot of time on the set in relation to how long it takes for the whole movie to be made.?

And often the main actors may not even be in a horse scene.

?We?ve met actors, but it?s not a social thing,? Steed says. ?Everybody?s there to work.?

Steed and some of his horseback brethren play a cavalry troop in this summer?s ?Lone Ranger? film (shot last summer and starring Johnny Depp as Tonto), but ?I have no idea what the movie?s gonna be like.?

The horsemen?s part ?may turn out to be 3 to 4 seconds of a movie and you spent three or four days shooting it.?

By the way, Steed?s beard in ?Lincoln?? Absolutely authentic.

?That was part of the deal. They wanted all of us in full beard.?

But no, he doesn?t usually wear a beard, and no, he didn?t like it.

?I shaved it off the last day we shot,? he says.

He helps populate Middle-earth

Robotics engineer Derek Scherer had a hand in making ?The Hobbit: An Unexpected Journey,? which picked up three Oscar nods, including visual effects.

So, we wondered, which ?Hobbit? creatures did Scherer and other special-effects wizards bring to life on the big screen?

Well ? he can?t say. He signed a nondisclosure agreement. (Scherer also worked for the Army as a robotics researcher, a civilian position for which he had top-secret clearance ? and the military seemed less strict about secrets than the movie people, he says.)

Besides, he doesn?t want to get crosswise with Weta Workshop, the New Zealand special effects firm that hired him. Weta also created the effects for the ?Lord of the Rings? trilogy and ?Avatar,? among other films.

Scherer, 30, grew up in Olathe and recently moved back here (to Overland Park) after a decade on the East Coast. He spent two months in New Zealand in late 2011, and he still marvels at ?what a rare treat it was to work on a big-budget movie like this that had a large animatronic portion to it.?

?Practical effects,? he points out, not computer-generated stuff.

?There is a certain charm to little hand puppets in front of the camera,? he says, as opposed to schlocky effects that look like they were produced by ?someone messing around with free software on the computer.?

While he was at Weta?s animatronics department, he also worked on two other films: the upcoming Superman movie, ?Man of Steel? (due in June), and ?Elysium,? a Matt Damon sci-fi flick (August).

Scherer?s company Golem Group provides ?custom robot solutions? as well as film/haunted house/theme park special effects and other services. He spends some of his time thinking about how robots can make everyday tasks easier. Like, for instance, driving our cars. Or folding our laundry.

Who wouldn?t love that?

And he?s on a mission to help us navigate all the information floating around. Organizing it ?is a very important part of surviving in this content-rich society,? Scherer says.

His contribution to a better-organized Web is Entertain Tech Wiki, a website he started with articles on topics such as stagecraft, video games and animatronics. (Get there through derekscherer.com.)

Since ?The Hobbit? opened in December, he has seen it twice, once in 3D.

And yes, of course he stayed to watch his name roll by in the credits.

Source: http://www.kansascity.com/2013/02/17/4069079/oscar-nominated-films-have-kansas.html

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Thursday, February 14, 2013

MAMGA Celebrates 75 Years at Mammoth Parade

MOBILE, Ala. (WPMI) The Mobile Area Mardi Gras Association celebrated its 75th Anniversary on Fat Tuesday. The Mammoth Parade rolled earlier this year because of the rain, but that did not stop revelers from coming out to support.

It kicked off at 1:30 instead of two avoid a heavy down pour. Along with the rain, beads, candy, teddy bears, and moon pies came down on eager revelers.
One rider said, "When the float first moves, you get excited. And it begins to move. This is like Christmas to us."


This year's floats were decked out in bling. It was the year of diamonds, a them chosen to represent 75 years of existence. MAMGA started in the early 1900s. The organization held its first parade in Mobile in 1939 and presented its first Royal court in 1940.

Nearly 30 floats traveled along downtown for the Mammoth Parade. Dozens came out despite the pouring rain including reigning Junior King Dylan Ross Merriweather.

"Rain or no rain we're still going to have fun, and we're still having parades," said Junior King Merriweather.

Many traveled from out of town to join in the Mardi Gras Celebration.

"We are from Mississippi. We are glad to be here. We come down here every year. We love it. I don't care about the rain," said one out of town reveler.

Click here to read this story on www.local15tv.com

Source: http://www.nbcnews.com/id/50789369/ns/local_news-mobile_al/

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Wednesday, February 13, 2013

Storenvy Goes From Getting Kicked Out Of YC To Raising A $5M Round

StorenvyNote: This is the second friend in a row whose funding I'm covering this week. Looks like my friends are doing okay for for themselves despite the Series A Crunch. Have at it, comments. Storenvy, a platform for people who'd like to build custom storefronts and marketplaces for people who'd like to discover them, is announcing its Series A funding today. The $5 million round was led by Spark Capital and Intel Capital with follow on by First Round Capital.

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'His message is not completed yet,' prosecutor in Dorner case warns

RIVERSIDE, Calif. (AP) ? The prosecutor who filed murder charges against a fugitive former Los Angeles police officer that could result in the death penalty said he believes the man hasn't finished carrying out his vendetta.

"Just read his manifesto and look at his actions," Riverside County District Attorney Paul Zellerbach said. "He's trying to send a message, and it would be my belief that his message is not completed yet."

On Monday, Zellerbach filed charges against Christopher Dorner for the murder of Riverside police Officer Michael Crain and the attempted murder of three other officers.

The manhunt for Dorner, 33, began last Wednesday when he was named the suspect in the Orange County killings of a former Los Angeles police captain's daughter and her fiance the previous weekend. Hours after police announced they were looking for him, Dorner fired at two LAPD officers then ambushed the Riverside officers.

"By both his words and conduct, he has made very clear to us that every law enforcement officer in Southern California is in danger of being shot and killed," Zellerbach said at a news conference that was guarded by four officers armed with rifles.

Police said Dorner wrote a lengthy manifesto that was posted to Facebook after the double murder. He vowed deadly revenge on those in the LAPD responsible for his firing years earlier, and their families. Police now are providing protection for some 50 families thought to be targets.

The search for Dorner was focused in the mountains near Big Bear Lake about 80 miles east of Los Angeles after his burned-out truck was found there last Thursday. Authorities are searching more than 30 square miles day and night in the ski resort area and checking on roughly 600 cabins.

Police and city officials believe a $1 million reward, raised from public and private sources, will encourage residents to stay vigilant. More than 700 tips had come in since the reward was announced.

"Now it's like the game show 'Who Wants to be a Millionaire,'" said Anthony Burke, supervisory inspector for the U.S. Marshals regional fugitive taskforce. "Instead of one contestant, we've got 100,000, and there's only one question you have to answer. All they have to answer is where he's at, and we can take it from there."

The wide-ranging search has created unusually heavy traffic backups at California border crossings into Mexico, as agents are more closely inspecting each car. State police in Mexico's Baja California were given photographs of Dorner and warned to consider him armed and extremely dangerous.

Authorities have obtained a no-bail arrest warrant, which allows Dorner to be apprehended anywhere, Zellerbach said.

Dorner was fired from the LAPD five years ago, when a department board determined that he falsely claimed another officer had kicked a suspect. Randal Quan represented him during the proceeding.

Quan's daughter, Monica, and her fiance, Keith Lawrence, were found shot dead Feb. 3 in a car in the parking structure of their Irvine condominium. Last Wednesday, after discovery of the manifesto, Irvine police announced they were searching for Dorner.

Early Thursday in the Riverside County city of Corona, Dorner shot at two LAPD officers who had been dispatched to protect a possible target of Dorner's, police said. One officer's head was grazed by a bullet; the other was unharmed.

Minutes later, Dorner used a rifle to ambush two Riverside officers, killing one and seriously wounding another, authorities said. The slain officer was identified as Michael Crain, 34. The other officer's identity was not released to protect his family.

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Abdollah reported from Los Angeles. Associated Press writer Elliot Spagat contributed to this report from San Diego.

Abdollah can be reached at http://www.twitter.com/LATams .

Source: http://news.yahoo.com/fugitive-ex-la-cop-charged-murder-officer-211145013.html

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Tuesday, February 12, 2013

G20 to skirt potholes and follow growth signposts

LONDON (Reuters) - With the road ahead looking a bit smoother, G20 finance ministers will be happy to ignore the wreck in the rear-view mirror when they meet this week to steer a course for the world economy.

The euro zone as a whole and a clutch of its members, including France, Italy and the Netherlands, are expected to report that their economies shrank last quarter - joining Germany and the United States - while Japan's barely grew, according to economists polled by Reuters.

But the Group of 20 leading economies, which meets in Moscow on Friday, should be able to take heart from a pair of more timely indicators - a New York Fed manufacturing survey and a University of Michigan poll on consumer sentiment.

Economists expect both to show an improvement, despite the gnawing uncertainty of how long-running U.S. deficit reduction negotiations will affect taxes and spending.

Luca Paolini, chief strategist at Pictet Asset Management in London, said he was more positive on the global outlook on balance but a sense of perspective was needed. Buoyant markets risked getting ahead of themselves.

"Our own leading indicators are going up, but we don't think we're in a strong growth environment. We see weak growth, and that's not going to change this year," he said.

PASSING THE GROWTH BATON

Simon Hayes, an economist with Barclays Capital, broadly agreed. "On the whole, recent activity data have been encouraging of our view that the global economy is improving, albeit slowly," he said in a report.

January U.S. retail sales figures are likely to underline this point. Hobbled by the January 1 increase in payroll taxes, economists expect a rise of just 0.1 percent on the month.

By contrast, U.S. capital spending is finally perking up from a low level as corporations, realizing that protracted cost-cutting is hurting productivity and growth prospects, give the green light to pent-up investments, Paolini said.

"But we're not overly optimistic because investment is based on confidence. You can have all the money you want, but you're not going to invest if you expect growth to be weak. So if we have any kind of shock - it can be politics or something else - investment will fall again," he said.

China delivered a boost to confidence on Friday with a batch of strong trade and money data for January.

Economists are wary of reading too much into China's figures at the start of the year because of distortions due to the variable timing of the long Lunar New Year holidays.

But Ting Lu, Bank of America Merrill Lynch's chief China economist, said they supported his view that gross domestic product growth could accelerate to 8.3 percent in the first half of this year from 7.9 percent in the fourth quarter of 2012.

China is not the only developing economy that is doing its bit for global growth.

Mark Williams, chief Asia economist with Capital Economics in London, said there had been signs of a rebound across the emerging world in the past month. Goldman Sachs, too, said there had been a marked improvement in consumer confidence across emerging markets coming into 2013.

"It had been the case that Latin America and Asia were looking up at the end of last year but emerging economies in Europe were still looking very weak. But even they are now joining in the recovery. So it's looking increasingly broad-based," Williams said.

CURRENCY SKIRMISHES

One obvious pothole on the road to recovery is the threat of a spate of competitive devaluations, as growth-hungry countries seek to give their exporters an edge by talking down their currencies or actively pushing them lower by bold monetary easing.

Japan has come in for fierce criticism in some quarters for that very reason, but Finance Minister Taro Aso sought to restore calm on Friday by saying the recent slide in the yen had gone too far.

His emollient words reinforced expectations that the G20 will not point the finger at Tokyo.

At the same time, European Central Bank President Mario Draghi's success in reversing the euro's climb with a few well-chosen words last Thursday has eased the worries of France and others for now that the single currency was approaching levels that would do real damage to the euro area.

So, although Brazilian Finance Minister Guido Mantega fears global currency wars could intensify, the betting is on an anodyne statement from the Moscow meeting that avoids rattling confidence.

"There will be something very vague reminding everybody that if you start getting into currency wars everybody is going to lose," Paolini with Pictet said.

(Editing by Toby Chopra)

Source: http://news.yahoo.com/g20-skirt-potholes-growth-signposts-191526863--business.html

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AP PHOTOS: A look back at Pope Benedict XVI

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FILE - In this Thursday, Dec. 25, 2008, file photo, Pope Benedict XVI holds the pastoral staff as he celebrates Christmas midnight Mass in St. Peter's Basilica at the Vatican. Declaring that he lacks the strength to do his job, Benedict announced Monday Feb. 11, 2013, he will resign Feb. 28 _ becoming the first pontiff to step down in 600 years. His decision sets the stage for a mid-March conclave to elect a new leader for a Roman Catholic Church in deep turmoil. (AP Photo/Gregorio Borgia, File)

FILE - In this Thursday, Dec. 25, 2008, file photo, Pope Benedict XVI holds the pastoral staff as he celebrates Christmas midnight Mass in St. Peter's Basilica at the Vatican. Declaring that he lacks the strength to do his job, Benedict announced Monday Feb. 11, 2013, he will resign Feb. 28 _ becoming the first pontiff to step down in 600 years. His decision sets the stage for a mid-March conclave to elect a new leader for a Roman Catholic Church in deep turmoil. (AP Photo/Gregorio Borgia, File)

FILE - In this September 1978 file photo provided by the German Catholic News Agency KNA, Albanian-born Mother Teresa, left, and German Cardinal Joseph Ratzinger, right, attend a Mass during the 85th German Catholics Day in Freiburg, southern Germany, from Sept. 13-19, 1978. Ratzinger was elected Pope, April 19, 2005 and chose Benedict XVI as his papal name. Pope Benedict XVI announced Monday, Feb. 11, 2013, he would resign Feb. 28 because he is simply too old to carry on. (AP Photo/KNA, File)

FILE - In this 1979 file photo, Pope John Paul II, left, poses with Cardinal Joseph Ratzinger of Munich, who was named on Nov. 25, 1981, Prefect of the Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith and President of the Pontifical Biblical Commission and of the International Theological Commission, the former Holy Office. Ratzinger was elected Pope, April 19, 2005 and chose Benedict XVI as his papal name. Pope Benedict XVI announced Monday, Feb. 11, 2013, he would resign Feb. 28 because he is simply too old to carry on. (AP Photo/File)

FILE - In this Oct. 22, 1978 file photo, Pope John Paul II places his hands on the shoulders of West German Cardinal Joseph Ratzinger, archbishop of Munich and Freising, during the solemn inauguration of his ministry as universal Pastor of the Church in Vatican City. Ratzinger, who later became Pope Benedict XVI, announced Monday, Feb. 11, 2013 that he will resign on Feb. 28. The 85-year-old pope announced his decision in Latin during a meeting of Vatican cardinals. (AP Photo)

FILE - In this file photo taken Sept. 11, 2002, then Cardinal Joseph Ratzinger of Germany, left, now Pope Benedict XVI, looks on as late Pope John Paul II celebrates Mass in St. Peter's Basilica at the Vatican. Benedict announced Monday, Feb. 11, 2013 that he will resign on Feb. 28. The 85-year-old pope announced his decision in Latin during a meeting of Vatican cardinals. (AP Photo/Pier Paolo Cito, File)

Pope Benedict XVI announced Monday that he will resign on Feb. 28. The 85-year-old pope announced his decision in Latin during a meeting of Vatican cardinals. "After having repeatedly examined my conscience before God, I have come to the certainty that my strengths due to an advanced age are no longer suited to an adequate exercise of the Petrine ministry," he told the cardinals. Benedict, the first pontiff to resign in nearly 600 years, emphasized that carrying out the duties of being pope ? the leader of more than a billion Roman Catholics worldwide ? requires "both strength of mind and body." He says he is simply too infirm to carry on.

Here is a look at Pope Benedict XVI's career in a chronological photo package.

Associated Press

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Monday, February 11, 2013

Self-ishness: The Key to Finding Lasting Love | Psych Central

Self-ishness: The Key to Finding Lasting Love?You complete me.?

It?s the most destructive idea about love in American culture. It may make for a good line in a movie. But the notion makes for very unstable relationships. It doesn?t work for either party.

When someone wants and needs their sweetheart to fill in the missing pieces in themselves, they are setting themselves up for emotional disaster. Being needy erodes one?s self-respect. Being seen as charmingly childish may work for a while, but at some point it will get old to find all your ideas and opinions being dismissed.

Wanting others to fill in our ?blanks? is a delightful fantasy. Wouldn?t we all like someone else to do the hard work necessary for helping us grow up? But growing up by definition requires effort. Being a grownup is what is required for finding grownup love.

The need for superiority is equally corrosive to relationships. Those who look for a needy person in order to feel ?needed? ultimately end up disappointed. Trading equality for control gives you all the responsibility in the relationship. A playmate is fun when life is all play. But when things get difficult ? and life has a way always of making things difficult now and then ? you?ll come to resent the person who has always looked to you to be the strong one. Such people can?t take a turn at carrying responsibilities and think it?s unfair if you ask them to do so.

Think of the workings of a fine road bike. Both wheels need to be balanced and aligned. When one wheel has a significant problem, or if one is overinflated, you?re in for a bumpy ride.

A relationship can work over the long term only if it is a partnership between two mature, complete adults who complement each other; who admire each other?s strengths and who respect themselves and each other. If you?ve been looking for the romance promised in chick flicks, where one person completes the other ? stop. You may find a fling, but you won?t find a partner. It?s time to take a look at whether you are self-ish enough to be in a relationship for keeps.

Selfishness doesn?t have to mean self-centered, narcissistic, and getting yours at others? expense. Instead, self-ishness can mean loving yourself enough to do the work to be a complete adult. When a person is self-ish in the positive sense, their self-esteem is high, they function well in the social world, they manage their responsibilities and they are sufficiently emotionally stable to be a loving and generous partner. Such people don?t need to be one-up or one-down to make a life with another. They are not threatened by another?s competence nor do they need someone to take care of them. They know that the basis of a healthy relationship is equality and respect.

A Time to Reevaluate

If you are unhappily single on Valentine?s Day or if you are in a relationship that isn?t working, it?s a good time to do some honest reflection. Like New Year?s, Valentine?s Day can be a time to take stock and to resolve to fix some things that could stand fixing. Neither looking for a missing piece nor looking for control by filling in someone else?s empty places will give you the steady, lasting love you want. Taking steps to be more self-ish will.

How to be self-ish enough to find a lasting romance:

  • Remind yourself that you are lovable. If you don?t think you are worthy of love, no one else will. If you think you can only be loved by people who need you or by being needed, give it up. Focus on developing yourself. Start your day with a few quiet minutes to remind yourself of your best qualities. Write them down. Decide to put at least some of those qualities out there for the world to see every day.
  • Respect yourself enough to expect others to treat you with respect. If someone is disrespectful, calmly remind them that you expect to be spoken to respectfully, even when you may be wrong, even if you are in disagreement. Of course, that means being equally respectful of other people when they are wrong or in disagreement.
  • Work on any feelings of insecurity you may have. If you think the only people who will love you are those who are grateful to you; if you need to be in control in order to be secure; you have work to do. Instead of rescuing yet another person as an avenue to ?love,? love yourself enough to focus on developing your sense of self-worth.
  • Love yourself enough to take care of yourself and to present yourself well. That means get enough sleep, eat sensibly, and get some exercise. Being attractive doesn?t take $40 fingernails, a $200 haircut or $500 shoes. Attractiveness that lasts beyond a first impression takes being healthy and put together.
  • Do your personal emotional work. If you have been told you are ?too needy? or ?too controlling,? take it seriously. Think about whether the comment was justified. Of course, sometimes people say such things in anger. But sometimes they are onto something ? or part of something. If you don?t feel like you can be an equal partner with a person you see as your equal, you might want to consider some therapy to help you sort out why and what you can do about it.

Finding a soulmate is just that ? finding a mate, a person who walks beside you. That person is not a person who needs you to fix them, nor is it someone who is invested in being the one to do the fixing. If you are looking for romantic love that lasts, be self-ish enough to expect and give love in equal measure.

Happy Valentine?s Day.

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Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker is licensed as both a psychologist and marriage and family counselor. She specializes in couples and family therapy and parent education. She writes regularly for Psych Central as well as Psych Central's Ask the Therapist feature, and has published the insightful parenting e-book, Tending the Family Heart.

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